Every day I hear this nonsense.  “You cannot change someone”, they say, “You have to wait until they are ready.”  It is bizarre and cowardly and yet another way of getting out of taking action.  My favorite mind screw is, “They have to hit bottom first and then they will be ready to change.”

What if they are traveling at 100 mph when they hit bottom?  Will they bounce?  So here’s the terrifying question for all you parents out there that want to do the wait and see crap or it will get better with time or they’ll grow out of it.  How will that sound when you bury them?

What will you do after the tragedy when you find out that you could have done something?  What if I’m right and the conventional wisdom is wrong?  Shouldn’t you at least consider the possibility?  And the downside of taking change-producing action is what?  You are going to make the situation worse?  Give me a break.  Have some guts.  Change the kids for the better.  They will not bounce.