1) I admit that I am dependent on my children for love and acceptance and the consequences are unhealthy for the family.

2) I accept that in order to cure myself I need to refrain from dependent and self-defeating behavior by seeking new ways to get my needs met.

3) I admit that I may require help in identifying the seemingly innocent, addictive behaviors because I have been unsuccessful in resisting my desire to engage in self-defeating patterns with my children.

4)While I may have personal problems that feed my addiction, I do have the capacity to change my behavior and establish an effective parenting relationship.

5) I reject the idea that I must accumulate endless amounts of information and seek out multiple experts to tell me what to do, recognizing that this can become another addictive process and create more dependency.

6) I reject the idea that I must be perfect but accept the reality that I must be more effective in how I raise my children.

7) I place a high value on being creative and daring in learning how to start new patterns of communication.

8) I accept that I am responsible for my thoughts, emotions and actions and will not blame others for my situation.

9) I recognize that stopping negative dependency is better than attempting to control it.  Too much is at stake to risk further addiction.

10) While there are no perfect solutions, I will take strategic risks to achieve my goal of ending all self-defeating patterns with my children.

11) I choose to give up ideas of guilt, blame and worthlessness as a matter of principle and as a personal demonstration that I am committed to a new way.

12) I accept the fact that mentally and emotionally healthy adults are not inclined to be dependent on their children.  I will complete my recovery and be free of the addiction to my children and as a result my family will be healthier.

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